You learned in school that your lovers will share many traits with your parent of the opposite sex. Bet you never thought about how much your lover has in common with the people who read your blog, did you? Well, think about it today, because here are six tips to help you score big with both.
Props go to Brian Clark for inspiring this post.
Do something different.
After a little experimenting, you will discover some things that work well consistently, and earn you some kudos. It's easy to get into the rut of returning to these standby techniques over and over, like Pavlov's dog.
Don't be afraid to experiment a little. You will likely find something that gets their attention in a better, or at the very least, different way. And remember, experimenting is how you came up with those standby techniques in the first place, Romeo.
Make it all about them.
You can talk about yourself all day if you want to, but people will stop listening. Show that you are genuinely interested in the other person, either by showering them with attention whether they deserve it or not, or by gently asking them for feedback.
And would it kill you to show up with flowers once in awhile, just because?
Don't be afraid to brag a little.
Sure, your lover and your readers might already know how awesome you are. What about everybody else out there who don't already know? Someone has to tell them how awesome you are.
The trick is to keep it to just a little. Mention one or two of your best (and most pertinent) qualities or achievements in appropriate situations, and leave it at that. When every conversation starts becoming about you, you, you, it's time to change it up. See the above tip.
Be honest, not brutal
Honesty really is the best policy. Ask anybody who's had to learn to be honest, and they'll tell you the same.
With that having been said, remember that sometimes a question never asked is what it is because it need never be answered. A person can live an honest life without ever asking or telling how many people they have slept with, or if their books or blogs are written under a psuedonym.
Think before you speak...
...or hit the publish button. Remember that once you have said something, you really can never completely take it back.
By all means, apologize proptly when you screw up, but bear in mind that the slate is never completely clean.
We all have problems. Maybe you have a headache tonight, or maybe your pagerank went down to zero. While it's essential to your well-being to vent to some extent, you can't just leave the vent open 24/7.
Hey, it's a free country and you're allowed to complain if you want, but that doesn't mean you should make it your primary purpose in life. Your mojo points and RSS subscribers will drop like hot rocks if all you do is complain.
There are so many people who do this, Bloggrrl wrote a post just to complain about it!